Self reliant dating
For most of my childhood, I was bummed about being an only child.
It was tough as a kid seeing all of my friends with siblings, and even when they complained about having to share, a part of me envied them for having a partner in crime. I can’t speak for all only children but I was raised to be very self-reliant.
I do not want a man to look after me, I enjoy being independent and self reliant, just looking for a man that does too.
Do you find that you wait for others to recognize your accomplishments before being proud of them yourself?
Tell yourself you can handle it and support yourself in going after your goals. Remind yourself that you are doing your best and let these thoughts pass. Give yourself permission to like what you like and not like what you don’t like. Practice self-acceptance by exploring who you are and recognizing all of your qualities, even if they don’t feel positive in nature. Be creative to help your brain function more efficiently and effectively.
It is healthy to reflect for personal growth, but damaging to your health to beat yourself up over every little thing. It’s completely okay to be an extrovert, introvert or somewhere in between, enjoy chocolate ice cream but despise vanilla or prefer to hang out in smaller groups instead of big crowds. Without judging yourself for your weaknesses, get to know yourself. Creativity helps you achieve a greater sense of wellbeing and gain better control of your thoughts.
Rachel Dack is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) and relationship coach, specializing in psychotherapy for individuals and couples via her private practice in Bethesda, Maryland.
Rachel’s areas of expertise include relationships, self-esteem, dating, mindfulness, anxiety, depression and stress management.